How Divorce Stole Christmas

Christmas Eve was less exciting. Christmas morning less cheery. Waking up was a chore, and opening presents didn't go by quick enough. Pictures were annoying, and I was only interested in crawling back to bed. (That, and Christmas dinner.)

Christmas just isn't what it used to be,
holidays in general just aren't the same.
Every year I get less interested in any day that's dedicated to family
and I can't help but point fingers at who I feel is to blame.

I feel the act of marriage is far too easy; it should be more complicated to do. A much longer process too. You should have to jump through hoop after hoop; actually prove your genuine, honest love for someone before being able to marry them. You should be forced through hardships, and withstand actual struggle with a person before saying "I do." There should be more to it than a simple ceremony.

I'd like to say that divorce should be more complicated as well, but from what I've been told, it isn't exactly easy. (Take note that if this were actually true, divorce wouldn't be such a common thing.) But what do I know?

I know that marriage is too easy, and doesn't mean enough. I know that divorce is too common. I know that families should be harder to break and children less susceptible to pain.

They say things change... but they don't. People change, and I know this, but two people who undoubtedly love each other should be able to change and evolve together without giving up. Divorce shouldn't be such an easy way out; then maybe people would be less-likely to take it. Families would be less broken, children would be less hurt and Christmas, well Christmas would be a lot more cheerful.

Perception

(There's nothing we can do about the things we have to do without.)

I'm so tired of negativity. Negative people, thoughts, and all things alike. I've rid myself of all things negative and only since then have I been completely content, and genuinely happy with my life. I only wish the people around me would learn to do the same.

The next time I hear someone say that they "can't help being so depressed all the time," please just remind me to shoot myself in the foot, okay?

It seems like everyone is always complaining about something. I understand the whole "the grass is always greener on the other side" thing. I'm 100% sure we have all felt like that at some point or another. I simply wish that more people would realize that they are in control of their lives, their own feelings. Only them. If you don't like something in your life; fix it. If you don't enjoy feeling unhappy; change it. It's really not as hard as we often make it out to be.

In the words of yours truly (from a previous blog): "It's so much easier to be happy and to choose to love the things that you already have, rather than always yearning for what you're missing, or what it is that you're imagining you're missing. It's so much more peaceful. It really is."

Stop searching forever. Happiness is just next to you.

It's all about perception.